About Beyond Egos
“The only way to grow is to work on whatever stops you from growing.”
Facilitator of healing, transformation & connection with the self and all that is. Beyond Egos dreams of an universe with an abundance of love and unity where all beings are happy and in harmony. With this underlying philosophy Beyond Egos organises energy healing consults, self-healing coaching, ceremonies, courses and other spiritual activities that are accessible and above all playful.
The process of awakening has great ups, but sometimes also downs. It can feel like swimming against the current, especially when you force things. Beyond Egos brings like-minded people together and challenges you to look beyond your ego and to 'be' the deepest sense of self. We are programmed and conditioned by our upbringing and past experiences. This gives us a lot, but at the same time causes us to lose the connection with our true self. Past events can cause deeply rooted emotions such as fear, anger, sadness, jealousy and so on. These emotions can cause negative feelings and thoughts about ourselves and our environment. Thoughts that are connected to past experiences and color our experiences with a form of suffering in the here and now. Beyond Egos helps you break free from these programming and conditioning, so that you can enjoy the here and now with an open mindset.
The Ego
An unhealthy Ego
● Feeling of not being good enough;
● Uses anger to control other people;
● Is reactive, dramatic, defensive or easy to trigger;
● Repeats problematic behavior that causes pain;
● Fights reality or wishes it away;
● Refuses to face fear and challenges;
● Believes that happiness only occurs when there is no emotional pain or fear;
● Often feels overwhelmed by emotions;
● Expect perfection;
● Personalizes what others say and do;
● Uses blame, avoidance, criticism, or denial to deal with difficult situations;
● Feels a sense of superiority;
● Requires a lot of emotional validation and feels angry, anxious or depressed when it is not available;
● Cannot show compassion or understanding to people with different opinions or beliefs;
● Feels a sense of competition with others;
● Feels jealous or judgmental about other people's success;
● Avoid apologies and taking responsibility;
● Uses means to comfort, avoid, numb, escape, or distract from uncomfortable feelings;
● Always wants to be right and feels superior;
● Is chameleon-like: constantly changing to fit in or fulfill a role.
A healthy Ego:
● Reflective, responsive and resourceful;
● Thinks in terms of possibilities;
● Turns to healthy coping mechanisms in times of stress;
● Optimistic and grateful;
● Can understand, value and validate perspectives that are different;
● Strong sense of capacity and security;
● Stays within a feeling of self-confidence, personal power and the ability to handle triggering situations;
● Can tolerate discomfort and regulate emotions;
● Does not personalize what others say or do: maintains a healthy perspective;
● Embraces the imperfections of self, others and life;
● Takes ownership of problems: let's make other people responsible for themselves;
● Applies acceptance, compassion and cooperation;
● Acts from integrity and authenticity;
● Can distinguish between what can be changed and what cannot;
● Is adaptive and flexible;
● Feels worthy and believes to deserve good things;
● Can give and receive love and appreciation;
● Is aware of interests, desires and talents.